Counselling is a supportive place to express your feelings, and come to an understanding of them. Counselling with an experienced professional can offer a way through to a better and kinder relationship with yourself. And counselling can be be a journey of deepening your own knowing and wisdom. In time, with support, reflection and effort you will begin to see how some of the familiar patterns and dynamics in your current and past relationships have been getting in the way of you having deeper and more fulfilling relationships with others.
My name is Julie and I am a Psychotherapist and Counsellor who brings professionalism, warmth, kindness, humour and challenge. I am passionate about working with you to find a way through your relationship issues and struggles.
Below are some of the more common relationship wounds that you might be experiencing right now:
Are you heartbroken at the end of a relationship? (whether you ended it or the one who has been left)
Counselling can offer you time, space and support to really explore your feelings of grief, anger, bewilderment, guilt, shame. We can look at the impact a relationship ending has had on you, either recently or from long ago (it can take time for us to be ready to look at old wounds). Feeling our feelings, making sense of our experience and connecting to our new found wisdom can allow our heart to heal in readiness for what it seeks next.
Stuck in negative and repeating patterns and don’t know how things can ever change?
No matter what the relationship, you will find yourself in familiar patterns:
‘Why does this always happen? Why do the people I choose in my life let me down/betray me/ insert…?’ Often we don’t clearly see what we do or how we are, or why we make the decisions we make. Even when we say to ourselves, ‘I’m not doing that again/dating that type of person,’ we then go on to do exactly that. This is because other forces are at work deep in our unconscious; the old suppressed patterns of how we are, the old old stories we may have been told and continue to tell ourselves; ‘I’m not worthy, I’ll always be alone, no one could ever love me,’ and so on.
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” (Jung)
Counselling offers you the support, expertise and safety to go on a journey to begin to understand these patterns and actually give yourself a fighting chance to choose how you are, what you want from and what you offer in relationships. Knowing yourself well gives you the opportunity to make better decisions for you and your current and future relationships.
Have low self esteem and lack confidence in relationships?
Sometimes in relationships we find ourselves always agreeing with others, doing what they feel like doing, and finding ourselves hitched to their plans. This can happen because we might not value ourselves enough, or have the confidence to say what it is we would like. Sometimes, it is because we really do not know what our needs and desires are. Counselling can help you to get to know yourself and have a deeper relationship with you, which ultimately changes how you are able to communicate and ‘be you’ in your relationships.
